Question of the Week: When Did it Get Easier for You?
My favorite thing to do when I see brand new moms of twins, is let them know that it WILL get easier. When I was walking around in a fog during those newborn days, I had a twin mom tell me that exact thing. And it helped. A lot. Having twin infants is hard. It's a lot harder than anyone can imagine (except another mom of multiples). I did not enjoy those days. Not at all.
However, I survived! And yes, it does, in fact, get better. And easier. The first 3 months were rough. After that, it got a bit easier. Again, at 6 months, it got a little easier. The first year was definitely the roughest. The second year was tough too, but around 2.5 years it got a lot easier! Now that my girls are 3, I'm just starting to get a glimpse of my life - as ME- as it was before. It is better, no doubt, but I do have a little more time for myself. I also feel more confident in my parenting skills, and I know how to deal with my twins. I've been doing it awhile. For me, while each stage got easier, after age 2 is when it gets much easier. Of course, the tantrums are rough to deal with too. Nothing, nothing at all compares to those newborn days. That was the toughest, and I would not want to relive them- unless I had lots of help so I could get sleep and ENJOY the girls as newborns.
It gets easier. It really does. And the joys of having twins are enormous. Nothing compares to the sweetness of twins!