Saturday, December 31, 2011

Goodbye 2011...Hello 2012!

I have been away a long time! Work has been crazy, so I haven't had the time or energy to post anything. This school year has been difficult and not good at all. I cannot wait for it to be over, and I don't think I've said that before in the 10 years I've been teaching! I think with the economy, more and more kids are having major issues at home, and when you get to know students and are trying to teach them, well, it wears on you. Top that with no permanent administrators, and it's not a good thing. But enough about work!

The girls turned 3 this year, which was exciting. Yes, 3s are rougher than 2s! With the 3s, it was like they were bipolar. It has gotten a little better, but there are still major mood swings! It has been awesome seeing M & S grow up. They are so big now and becoming these little, interesting people.

I don't think I've gotten any twin comments this year at all. It's funny, when they are infants, you get so many comments, many of them not welcome, and then it diminishes. Which is totally fine, I just think it is interesting. It is so much easier now that my girls are older. While I still prefer to go shopping alone- it is so much quicker! I can take them shopping by myself, and it's not that big of a pain. Not like it was when they were 2 and under. Pretty much everything has gotten easier. The tantrums are not fun, but once you know the best way to handle them for each (because oh, they respond SO differently to things!), it gets easier.

I noticed someone asked me a question on my last post, and I never answered it! So I will now. They asked about how long I kept the girls together in a crib when they were infants.

I had a full size co-sleeper that they both slept in for a long time. I think I kept them both in it together until about 4 months, when they started rolling over. And even after that I would have them nap in it. We had 2 cribs set up from the start, but didn't need them right away. They slept in the same crib until they started really rolling around, probably around 5 months. Before that, sometimes I would have one sleep in the crib and one in the co-sleeper. It just depended on what they needed. The best lesson I ever learned being a twin mom: You do what works for YOU! People will give you suggestions, which are great, but you need to find what works for you and your babies and stick with it. Good luck!

Friday, September 02, 2011

Big Girl Bed Update

I hesitate to write this, but I felt the need to report. We switched a couple months ago to toddler beds. Has it really only been 2 or so months?? It was a big deal and it took me back to the dreaded newborn days. I was not getting ANY sleep. First, I had to sleep in the room with them until they fell fast asleep. Then, they started waking in the middle of the night, and who can forget their lovely super early in the morning wakings? Which are still going, by the way. Anyway, I am happy to report that it IS getting easier! I now rub their backs until the fall asleep and then sneak out. And it hasn't been taking them long to fall asleep. I am pleased at the direction this has been going!

Oh, and another HUGE update! M finally, FINALLY is pooping on the potty!!! Twice now she has gone on her own. S is next.

Thursday, August 18, 2011

Pacis, Pre-school, and Poop

Last night M asked for her paci. It was really so sad. She first told me that she was sad. I asked her why and she said, "Because I want my paci." and she said it in a way that was so sad :( I did not give in though!! I told her that she was a big girl now and didn't need it, and that I wished I could give it to her, but couldn't. She did eventually go to sleep too!

Pre-school is going well! They love it, of course. I have been dropping them off since I have been on break, and S is always the first one in, not looking back, ready to go! M started to hang back and hide behind my legs a bit. Once she gets in there, she is fine, but I think she also wants to spend time with me. The only thing I don't like, is when I pick them up. They go to afternoon pre-school, so when I pick them up they are super tired. I bring them home and they act crazy. Bipolar even. They will get upset over the smallest thing, then be happy, then upset. I want this, no I want that! Do this for me, NO don't do that for me!! It's exhausting!

I originally put "poop" in the title just so I could have another "p" word- the English teacher in me acting up- but I do have some poop things to write about. Mine still will NOT go in the potty. I have tried bribing. That doesn't work. Bribes just don't work all that well with my kids. They say they are scared, so we talk about it, but they still won't do it. Some have told me to take away the pull up at night, since that is when they poop. They hold it until they get in a pull up then let it all go! I tried that with M a couple times, but she will either just hold it and then have an accident at school, or poop in the undies. Not ok. So we continue with pull ups at night. I keep reminding myself that they WILL get it eventually. Just like they got peeing in the potty. Laid back is what they need. I just need to remind myself of that!

Friday, August 12, 2011

Paci Update!

Getting rid of the paci was a little LESS painful than I expected! The first night, it took them forever to fall asleep. But, after the first night, they did not even ask for their paci at all! We had explained it a bunch of times and talked about it for well over a week beforehand though. I really was expecting them to ask and cry for it though. The only thing that is happening, that I think could be paci related is that M is waking in the middle of the night. And she wants me. And she doesn't want to stay in her room. She wants to come sleep in my bed. I really need to stop letting her do that! It's like when she was 6 months old again!

Friday, August 05, 2011

Paci Fairy, bedtime, etc.

Tonight the Paci Fairy is coming! What happens is she comes during the night and takes the pacifiers and gives them to the babies who need them. She leaves a nice toy in its place though! I'm not too worried about Sofia, she'll be ok. Maya is the one I'm most worried about. In the past 2 weeks she has gotten even MORE attached to the paci. I got them each a LaLaLoopsy doll, so I'm hoping that will help, but I have a feeling the next few nights will be horrendous.

I am STILL laying on their floor with them. Not sure when this will change. I'm flattered, really, that they want me around all the time. I know that will change eventually, but I do need to get stuff done!

Potty Training! It is going well. They go pee on the potty all the time now. Maya wakes up dry in the morning and after naps (WHEN they nap, which is an entirely different post!). But they won't poop on the potty! M went in her undies yesterday. Other times, she will ask for a pull up. S just waits for her pull up at night and then poops. I'm going to try bribery. I got a few Hot Wheels cars from the store ($1 each!) and I will show them to the girls and let them know they will get one every time they poop on the potty. I'm hoping it works, but knowing my girls... it might not.

Monday, July 25, 2011

Toddler Bed Update

It's been a little over a month since we switched to the toddler beds. IT's still pretty insane. Most nights, I have to lie down with them until they fall asleep. And they won't go to sleep until it is fairly dark outside. So our bedtime routine- I mean process- usually goes like this:
* brush teeth, use potty, get jammies on
* story, or 3
* girls get in bed, I lie down next to them
* 5 seconds later, I'm telling them again to lie down
* repeat
* repeat, threaten to leave
* actually leave
* go back when they start beating each other up
* repeat all of this until it is almost 8 pm. Then, they will lie down, and eventually fall asleep.

Sunday, July 17, 2011

Check out this post from Rants From Mommyland. It is SO TRUE! Threes are insane!
Top Ten Reasons Why Three is Worse Than Two

Saturday, July 02, 2011

July 2, 2011

Yes. The toddler beds are STILL giving me grief. Ok, the beds themselves aren't, but it is still a struggle. There were a couple nights that were fine. Then, there are the horrendous nights where one wants to go to sleep, and the other just wants to run in circles. Pair that with super stressful work, and it is not a good combo! I think we have been in toddler beds for what, 2 weeks now? Feels like an eternity though.

Saturday, June 25, 2011

Wow. So last night was HORRIBLE. They stayed up. I even tried sleeping in the room with them. At 10 pm I told hubby he was on duty and went to bed. No idea what time they fell asleep, but they did sleep later this morning!

Friday, June 24, 2011

Night 6 (I think?) of Toddler Beds

Has it really been 6 nights?? In some ways it doesn't seem like it has been that many nights, and in other ways it does...

It's getting better. Last night M went to sleep quickly, and in her bed! S was up for a long time and then she woke in the middle of the night. Luckily hubby took care of that! As for tonight, I put them to bed at 7. It is now 7:56 and it is quiet in there. This is a huge improvement. It had been hours of them being awake and playing. Now, tonight they did start the, "Mommy, I gotta go peepee!" routine. I think it was Rebecca who asked about this. My girls recently potty trained (pee only!) and have been doing very well. However, during sleeping times I put a pull up or night diaper on them. They do not wake up if they have to go. M usually stays dry, but S still soaks a diaper overnight. I'm not even going to stress about night potty training. I'm hoping by the time they night train, they will pretty much be able to go on their own. We'll see how it actually pans out! :)

I also had to strip their room of just about everything. The first night I thought I got everything out that needed to be out. I was so wrong. Same thing for the second night. By the third night I had gotten everything out. They did dump one drawer full of clothes, but, and I am SO proud of my obsessive-compulsive self, I just put them back in the drawer, without re-organizing and did not even flinch. Well, I hardly flinched.

And as I'm typing this, I now hear 2 little voices! So they are not asleep yet, but hopefully soon. I hear M talking about going pee-pee. Hmmmm...

Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Toddler Bed- Day 3

Tonight went even better than last! No nap today since they had preschool, and Maya was super tired. After baths, Maya was out in about 5 min. Granted, she fell asleep again on the floor, but I'm not picky. Sofia gave me a bit more grief tonight. It was hard for her to even think about going to sleep with all the "fun" stuff in her room like her clippies, the extra liners for the diaper can, and other random things I never thought they'd play with. So after stripping the room of just about everything, keeping some books in there, she finally settled down and went to sleep. M even climbed back into her bed!

Those of you with twins considering moving to a toddler bed- hold out! Hold out as long as you possibly can! But also know that when you do switch, it is very difficult at first, but gets easier every night. I do feel like I am in the newborn stage though, with all this lack of sleep.

Monday, June 20, 2011

Toddler Bed- Day 2

Whatever possessed me to think switching to toddler beds was a good idea??? Going to bed used to be so nice. They would lay down in their cribs and go to sleep pretty fast, or at least lay quietly. Yesterday we decided to switch to toddler beds. It's really not much different from the crib. Same bed, just no side railing. But to the girls, it is totally different.

Night 1, M was up partying and jumping on her bed. I went in and laid with them for about an hour and they fell asleep. Then at 3 am, M woke up and was waking S up. I got them to lay quietly and got about 1 more hour of sleep before they were up for the day.

Nap day 1- I was super tired and luckily hubby let me nap. The girls did not nap, so he put them in the play room, which right now is our spare bedroom. They played until they both finally passed out on the bed and slept for about an hour.

Night 2- I put them to bed early since they were SO tired. 6 pm. S is pretty good with the bed. She will lay in it and not really get up. M is having difficulty. I've been in there now I don't know how many times. I even tried laying in there with them, but M was just jumping on me and laughing. They are now quiet and both laying on the floor. Hopefully they fall asleep, and stay asleep!!

Word of advice- put off changing to a toddler bed AS LONG AS YOU CAN!!!! If I just had 1 to deal with it would be easier I think. Don't rush moving to a bed. If they are not climbing out, be happy they are still in cribs!

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

I love comments! Please feel free to comment on any posts. Unless you are just advertising, that is. I just deleted a comment that was simply links to different things. I will delete those. Sigh.

The girls had their first day of preschool yesterday! They loved it!

Friday, June 10, 2011

I've been a bad blogger! I know it has been forever since I have posted. Life is super busy and stressful. My students stress me out- they all have so many emotional needs, and I just wish I could make everything better for them! They break my heart on a daily basis. The students I have this year are really good kids. So their horrible home lives really kill me. Plus, since I teach at a K-8 school and the middle school part of the school is so small, and I have all the 7th and 8th graders, I am closer to my students than I have been at other schools where I had many more students. It's emotionally draining, and I just hope that having them for a short two years is a good, positive influence in their lives.

And then, of course, there is life at home with my girls! They are 3! I still can't get over how much they have grown, and how much they are talking and becoming these awesome little people! I never thought I'd be able to say this, but they are pretty much potty trained!!! I think we have been pull-up free during the day now for 2 weeks! My theory always had been that they will get it quickly when they are actually ready, and that was the case. One day Maya did not want to wear pull ups anymore, and Sofia followed the very next day. We have had a few small accidents here and there, but really it has been good! They will not poop in the potty yet, but they will get there. It truly is about them being ready. We try to push kids to be ready to potty train way before they are actually ready. I am looking forward to not buying DIAPERS anymore!

Next week the girls start preschool! We are all very excited. I had been looking into local preschools for quite some time. I needed something that wasn't very expensive, developmentally appropriate, and good. I put them at a local Methodist church preschool. Now, I have had many reservations about putting them in a church preschool. However, I know many, many moms who have their kids in this particular preschool, and it seems much less preachy than most around here. And when I've visited, the church aspect doesn't seem to be a huge part, so I think I'm ok with it.

Even though this is the cheapest preschool I've found,it is still a stretch for us. But we have to do it. Not only will it be great for the girls, but hubby needs a few hours during the day so he can do school work. So this will work nicely. We will just have to make it work monetarily!

Saturday, May 14, 2011

My Review

Love the sun hats!

By TwinGirls08 from San Diego, CA on 5/14/2011


5out of 5

Pros: Durable, Good Value, Comfortable, Easy To Clean, Quality Construction

Describe Yourself: Parent of Multiples (Twins etc)

Last summer I bought the Sun Smarties hats and loved them! They did run a little small, so this year, for my three year old twin girls, I bought a size Large. They are a tiny bit big on them, but I'd rather have them too big than too small! I like that this year they have included the chin strap, and I love that they are reversible!

I looked around at different stores to see if I could find a hat that was less expensive. However, every hat I found was super thin and would not have kept out the sun's harmful rays. I will stick with the Sun Smarties hats!


Monday, April 18, 2011

Turbulent Threes

For awhile I've heard my friends with slightly older kids telling me that the threes are so much worse than twos! I admit, I was a little scared. And for good reason.

The threes are like dealing with someone (or in my case two people) who is bipolar and switches between extreme happiness and extreme angriness and/sadness all in the space of 2 minutes. I kid you not. There have been a few days when one of the girls would be super happy, and then super angry. Or sad. Or even both at the same time! It's craziness. You never know what might set them off.

While the twos had some tantrums, threes are more intense. They have an even better sense of self and want to assert their independence every chance they get. Sometimes this is welcoming. Sometimes it is not. When you just want to do something quickly, yet they want to put on their own socks, it can get frustrating. In cases like this, I do remind myself that a few extra minutes will not kill me. Other times, the asserting independence is in the form of refusing to do something- very frustrating! I have learned to let a lot of things go. M definitely likes to do her own thing and make sure I know that she is calling the shots. She has long hair, no bangs, so it gets in her face all the time. Most of the time, she will not let me put a clippy in her hair. Or a headband, or anything. On days like these, I breathe, and let it go.

Threes are also a lot of fun! They are saying lots of cute and unexpected things. This morning, the first thing they sad to me was, "Can we go back to the party?" Last night we went to our friend's daughter's sweet sixteen party, and the girls had a blast dancing the night away! They did not want to leave. I was a bit surprised though that they still wanted to go back in the morning! I then asked them what they wanted for breakfast, and S replied, "A cheese sandwich"

Hmmm. They have only ever had grilled cheese. But S was specific. "No butter. Just cheese and bread, mommy!" Well...ok. I asked Maya if she wanted the same, and she did. I was still skeptical but I prepared their sandwich, and they ate it all!

Be prepared for The Threes. Lots of frustration, but lots of fun too.

Saturday, April 02, 2011

Question of the Week: When Did it Get Easier for You?

My favorite thing to do when I see brand new moms of twins, is let them know that it WILL get easier. When I was walking around in a fog during those newborn days, I had a twin mom tell me that exact thing. And it helped. A lot. Having twin infants is hard. It's a lot harder than anyone can imagine (except another mom of multiples). I did not enjoy those days. Not at all.

However, I survived! And yes, it does, in fact, get better. And easier. The first 3 months were rough. After that, it got a bit easier. Again, at 6 months, it got a little easier. The first year was definitely the roughest. The second year was tough too, but around 2.5 years it got a lot easier! Now that my girls are 3, I'm just starting to get a glimpse of my life - as ME- as it was before. It is better, no doubt, but I do have a little more time for myself. I also feel more confident in my parenting skills, and I know how to deal with my twins. I've been doing it awhile. For me, while each stage got easier, after age 2 is when it gets much easier. Of course, the tantrums are rough to deal with too. Nothing, nothing at all compares to those newborn days. That was the toughest, and I would not want to relive them- unless I had lots of help so I could get sleep and ENJOY the girls as newborns.

It gets easier. It really does. And the joys of having twins are enormous. Nothing compares to the sweetness of twins!

Saturday, March 19, 2011


The girls are 3! WOW! It really does go by fast. Just 5 years ago I wasn't sure if I'd be able to have ANY kids, and now I have beautiful twin girls. It has been awesome to see my girls grow up. They are awesome little people!

Sunday, March 06, 2011

Happy Birthday Devin. You have touched my life, as well as many, many others. Thinking of Nat, from Relaxing Doesn't Make Babies, and her family today.

Sunday, January 16, 2011

More Potty Training

Potty Training continues! I have a feeling if I looked at my posts in the past 6 months, that most would be about potty training. I think I wrote before about my laid-back approach, which works fine- up to a point. I think it also really depends on each individual child, and having twins seriously underscores that.

I have had four weeks off of work (woohoo!) and I was going to get more serious with potty training. I waited until after Christmas, and I knew that the girls had pretty good control of their bladders. Not perfect, but I felt like they needed an extra nudge in the right direction. So, they went bare bottom for a few days. The first two days were great! Everyone went peepee on the potty, no accidents, I kept thinking, "ok, really?! Is it going to be this easy??" But, of course, it is not. The third day was AWFUL. Awful. Having accidents, M even had an "accident" on purpose! I gave up on that day and the next. Then I went back to bare bottoms, and it went better. I tried putting the thicker training undies on the girls, but S would go in them. I think she thought they were just like pull ups.

I continued on with bare bottoms- mostly with S. I am now asking M if she wants pull ups or nothing, and today she chose pullups. S has been so well that today we took a fairly short trip out and she wore undies. I was scared! But I was prepared with pullups, pants to change into, and a travel potty. It seemed like she knew she could not go in her undies this time. She also had a skirt on and did not want to get it wet and change into pants. I think we were gone for about an hour and a half to two hours. I took her potty before we left, when we got to our destination I wanted to her to use the travel potty, but she said no. Then, when we were done and got back in the car, I had her sit on the travel potty. She went a little, and then held the rest until we got home and went on her potty.

I know there will be setbacks, but this is great! Potty Training really is a long term thing. "They" don't really make it seem like that- especially the people who tout the 3-day potty training stuff- but it is a process. A long process. I am convinced that being laid back is best, for my girls, and sometimes they need a nudge, but it is a constant assessment of their needs.

Monday, January 03, 2011

Potty Training- Again!

We briefly tried potty training last summer and it didn't go so well. Since then, they have been wearing pull ups and we have been asking if they need to go on the potty. They will always go after a bath, and recently, as soon as S gets out of the tub she shrieks, "I have to go pee-pee!!" It's like she held it and just cannot hold it any longer!

Since I have 4 weeks off over this holiday, I decided I would try the bare bottom style. I know that they are ready, and just are being lazy about having a pull up on. Yesterday was Day 1. It went well. We only went bare bottom for a few hours in the morning. There were no accidents and both went peepee in the potty. M was holding it more, but she at least went.

Today we did bare bottoms all day (except for nap). S did so great! 1 minor accident, but 98% of the time she went in the potty. She even ran to the potty a couple times on her own, without telling me! I thought that was a huge step.

M was having more trouble. I really think this is a control issue with her. She is totally capable of it, I know. I wasn't even going to push it with her, but she wanted to be naked like her sister. Today, she had a few accidents. One time I asked her if she needed to go and she said no. Not 10 seconds later, I notice she is peeing. Of course, I do not make a big deal out of it, but it is frustrating.

No potty training tomorrow, we are going to the zoo!