Saturday, December 31, 2011
The girls turned 3 this year, which was exciting. Yes, 3s are rougher than 2s! With the 3s, it was like they were bipolar. It has gotten a little better, but there are still major mood swings! It has been awesome seeing M & S grow up. They are so big now and becoming these little, interesting people.
I don't think I've gotten any twin comments this year at all. It's funny, when they are infants, you get so many comments, many of them not welcome, and then it diminishes. Which is totally fine, I just think it is interesting. It is so much easier now that my girls are older. While I still prefer to go shopping alone- it is so much quicker! I can take them shopping by myself, and it's not that big of a pain. Not like it was when they were 2 and under. Pretty much everything has gotten easier. The tantrums are not fun, but once you know the best way to handle them for each (because oh, they respond SO differently to things!), it gets easier.
I noticed someone asked me a question on my last post, and I never answered it! So I will now. They asked about how long I kept the girls together in a crib when they were infants.
I had a full size co-sleeper that they both slept in for a long time. I think I kept them both in it together until about 4 months, when they started rolling over. And even after that I would have them nap in it. We had 2 cribs set up from the start, but didn't need them right away. They slept in the same crib until they started really rolling around, probably around 5 months. Before that, sometimes I would have one sleep in the crib and one in the co-sleeper. It just depended on what they needed. The best lesson I ever learned being a twin mom: You do what works for YOU! People will give you suggestions, which are great, but you need to find what works for you and your babies and stick with it. Good luck!
Friday, September 02, 2011
Oh, and another HUGE update! M finally, FINALLY is pooping on the potty!!! Twice now she has gone on her own. S is next.
Thursday, August 18, 2011
Last night M asked for her paci. It was really so sad. She first told me that she was sad. I asked her why and she said, "Because I want my paci." and she said it in a way that was so sad :( I did not give in though!! I told her that she was a big girl now and didn't need it, and that I wished I could give it to her, but couldn't. She did eventually go to sleep too!
Pre-school is going well! They love it, of course. I have been dropping them off since I have been on break, and S is always the first one in, not looking back, ready to go! M started to hang back and hide behind my legs a bit. Once she gets in there, she is fine, but I think she also wants to spend time with me. The only thing I don't like, is when I pick them up. They go to afternoon pre-school, so when I pick them up they are super tired. I bring them home and they act crazy. Bipolar even. They will get upset over the smallest thing, then be happy, then upset. I want this, no I want that! Do this for me, NO don't do that for me!! It's exhausting!
I originally put "poop" in the title just so I could have another "p" word- the English teacher in me acting up- but I do have some poop things to write about. Mine still will NOT go in the potty. I have tried bribing. That doesn't work. Bribes just don't work all that well with my kids. They say they are scared, so we talk about it, but they still won't do it. Some have told me to take away the pull up at night, since that is when they poop. They hold it until they get in a pull up then let it all go! I tried that with M a couple times, but she will either just hold it and then have an accident at school, or poop in the undies. Not ok. So we continue with pull ups at night. I keep reminding myself that they WILL get it eventually. Just like they got peeing in the potty. Laid back is what they need. I just need to remind myself of that!
Friday, August 12, 2011
Friday, August 05, 2011
I am STILL laying on their floor with them. Not sure when this will change. I'm flattered, really, that they want me around all the time. I know that will change eventually, but I do need to get stuff done!
Potty Training! It is going well. They go pee on the potty all the time now. Maya wakes up dry in the morning and after naps (WHEN they nap, which is an entirely different post!). But they won't poop on the potty! M went in her undies yesterday. Other times, she will ask for a pull up. S just waits for her pull up at night and then poops. I'm going to try bribery. I got a few Hot Wheels cars from the store ($1 each!) and I will show them to the girls and let them know they will get one every time they poop on the potty. I'm hoping it works, but knowing my girls... it might not.
Monday, July 25, 2011
* brush teeth, use potty, get jammies on
* story, or 3
* girls get in bed, I lie down next to them
* 5 seconds later, I'm telling them again to lie down
* repeat, threaten to leave
* actually leave
* go back when they start beating each other up
* repeat all of this until it is almost 8 pm. Then, they will lie down, and eventually fall asleep.
Sunday, July 17, 2011
Saturday, July 02, 2011
Saturday, June 25, 2011
Friday, June 24, 2011
It's getting better. Last night M went to sleep quickly, and in her bed! S was up for a long time and then she woke in the middle of the night. Luckily hubby took care of that! As for tonight, I put them to bed at 7. It is now 7:56 and it is quiet in there. This is a huge improvement. It had been hours of them being awake and playing. Now, tonight they did start the, "Mommy, I gotta go peepee!" routine. I think it was Rebecca who asked about this. My girls recently potty trained (pee only!) and have been doing very well. However, during sleeping times I put a pull up or night diaper on them. They do not wake up if they have to go. M usually stays dry, but S still soaks a diaper overnight. I'm not even going to stress about night potty training. I'm hoping by the time they night train, they will pretty much be able to go on their own. We'll see how it actually pans out! :)
I also had to strip their room of just about everything. The first night I thought I got everything out that needed to be out. I was so wrong. Same thing for the second night. By the third night I had gotten everything out. They did dump one drawer full of clothes, but, and I am SO proud of my obsessive-compulsive self, I just put them back in the drawer, without re-organizing and did not even flinch. Well, I hardly flinched.
And as I'm typing this, I now hear 2 little voices! So they are not asleep yet, but hopefully soon. I hear M talking about going pee-pee. Hmmmm...
Tuesday, June 21, 2011
Those of you with twins considering moving to a toddler bed- hold out! Hold out as long as you possibly can! But also know that when you do switch, it is very difficult at first, but gets easier every night. I do feel like I am in the newborn stage though, with all this lack of sleep.
Monday, June 20, 2011
Night 1, M was up partying and jumping on her bed. I went in and laid with them for about an hour and they fell asleep. Then at 3 am, M woke up and was waking S up. I got them to lay quietly and got about 1 more hour of sleep before they were up for the day.
Nap day 1- I was super tired and luckily hubby let me nap. The girls did not nap, so he put them in the play room, which right now is our spare bedroom. They played until they both finally passed out on the bed and slept for about an hour.
Night 2- I put them to bed early since they were SO tired. 6 pm. S is pretty good with the bed. She will lay in it and not really get up. M is having difficulty. I've been in there now I don't know how many times. I even tried laying in there with them, but M was just jumping on me and laughing. They are now quiet and both laying on the floor. Hopefully they fall asleep, and stay asleep!!
Word of advice- put off changing to a toddler bed AS LONG AS YOU CAN!!!! If I just had 1 to deal with it would be easier I think. Don't rush moving to a bed. If they are not climbing out, be happy they are still in cribs!
Wednesday, June 15, 2011
The girls had their first day of preschool yesterday! They loved it!
Friday, June 10, 2011
And then, of course, there is life at home with my girls! They are 3! I still can't get over how much they have grown, and how much they are talking and becoming these awesome little people! I never thought I'd be able to say this, but they are pretty much potty trained!!! I think we have been pull-up free during the day now for 2 weeks! My theory always had been that they will get it quickly when they are actually ready, and that was the case. One day Maya did not want to wear pull ups anymore, and Sofia followed the very next day. We have had a few small accidents here and there, but really it has been good! They will not poop in the potty yet, but they will get there. It truly is about them being ready. We try to push kids to be ready to potty train way before they are actually ready. I am looking forward to not buying DIAPERS anymore!
Next week the girls start preschool! We are all very excited. I had been looking into local preschools for quite some time. I needed something that wasn't very expensive, developmentally appropriate, and good. I put them at a local Methodist church preschool. Now, I have had many reservations about putting them in a church preschool. However, I know many, many moms who have their kids in this particular preschool, and it seems much less preachy than most around here. And when I've visited, the church aspect doesn't seem to be a huge part, so I think I'm ok with it.
Even though this is the cheapest preschool I've found,it is still a stretch for us. But we have to do it. Not only will it be great for the girls, but hubby needs a few hours during the day so he can do school work. So this will work nicely. We will just have to make it work monetarily!
Saturday, May 14, 2011
Love the sun hats!
Pros: Durable, Good Value, Comfortable, Easy To Clean, Quality Construction
Describe Yourself: Parent of Multiples (Twins etc)
Last summer I bought the Sun Smarties hats and loved them! They did run a little small, so this year, for my three year old twin girls, I bought a size Large. They are a tiny bit big on them, but I'd rather have them too big than too small! I like that this year they have included the chin strap, and I love that they are reversible!
I looked around at different stores to see if I could find a hat that was less expensive. However, every hat I found was super thin and would not have kept out the sun's harmful rays. I will stick with the Sun Smarties hats!
Monday, April 18, 2011
The threes are like dealing with someone (or in my case two people) who is bipolar and switches between extreme happiness and extreme angriness and/sadness all in the space of 2 minutes. I kid you not. There have been a few days when one of the girls would be super happy, and then super angry. Or sad. Or even both at the same time! It's craziness. You never know what might set them off.
While the twos had some tantrums, threes are more intense. They have an even better sense of self and want to assert their independence every chance they get. Sometimes this is welcoming. Sometimes it is not. When you just want to do something quickly, yet they want to put on their own socks, it can get frustrating. In cases like this, I do remind myself that a few extra minutes will not kill me. Other times, the asserting independence is in the form of refusing to do something- very frustrating! I have learned to let a lot of things go. M definitely likes to do her own thing and make sure I know that she is calling the shots. She has long hair, no bangs, so it gets in her face all the time. Most of the time, she will not let me put a clippy in her hair. Or a headband, or anything. On days like these, I breathe, and let it go.
Threes are also a lot of fun! They are saying lots of cute and unexpected things. This morning, the first thing they sad to me was, "Can we go back to the party?" Last night we went to our friend's daughter's sweet sixteen party, and the girls had a blast dancing the night away! They did not want to leave. I was a bit surprised though that they still wanted to go back in the morning! I then asked them what they wanted for breakfast, and S replied, "A cheese sandwich"
Hmmm. They have only ever had grilled cheese. But S was specific. "No butter. Just cheese and bread, mommy!" Well...ok. I asked Maya if she wanted the same, and she did. I was still skeptical but I prepared their sandwich, and they ate it all!
Be prepared for The Threes. Lots of frustration, but lots of fun too.
Saturday, April 02, 2011
Question of the Week: When Did it Get Easier for You?
My favorite thing to do when I see brand new moms of twins, is let them know that it WILL get easier. When I was walking around in a fog during those newborn days, I had a twin mom tell me that exact thing. And it helped. A lot. Having twin infants is hard. It's a lot harder than anyone can imagine (except another mom of multiples). I did not enjoy those days. Not at all.
However, I survived! And yes, it does, in fact, get better. And easier. The first 3 months were rough. After that, it got a bit easier. Again, at 6 months, it got a little easier. The first year was definitely the roughest. The second year was tough too, but around 2.5 years it got a lot easier! Now that my girls are 3, I'm just starting to get a glimpse of my life - as ME- as it was before. It is better, no doubt, but I do have a little more time for myself. I also feel more confident in my parenting skills, and I know how to deal with my twins. I've been doing it awhile. For me, while each stage got easier, after age 2 is when it gets much easier. Of course, the tantrums are rough to deal with too. Nothing, nothing at all compares to those newborn days. That was the toughest, and I would not want to relive them- unless I had lots of help so I could get sleep and ENJOY the girls as newborns.
It gets easier. It really does. And the joys of having twins are enormous. Nothing compares to the sweetness of twins!
Saturday, March 19, 2011
Sunday, March 06, 2011
Sunday, January 16, 2011
I have had four weeks off of work (woohoo!) and I was going to get more serious with potty training. I waited until after Christmas, and I knew that the girls had pretty good control of their bladders. Not perfect, but I felt like they needed an extra nudge in the right direction. So, they went bare bottom for a few days. The first two days were great! Everyone went peepee on the potty, no accidents, I kept thinking, "ok, really?! Is it going to be this easy??" But, of course, it is not. The third day was AWFUL. Awful. Having accidents, M even had an "accident" on purpose! I gave up on that day and the next. Then I went back to bare bottoms, and it went better. I tried putting the thicker training undies on the girls, but S would go in them. I think she thought they were just like pull ups.
I continued on with bare bottoms- mostly with S. I am now asking M if she wants pull ups or nothing, and today she chose pullups. S has been so well that today we took a fairly short trip out and she wore undies. I was scared! But I was prepared with pullups, pants to change into, and a travel potty. It seemed like she knew she could not go in her undies this time. She also had a skirt on and did not want to get it wet and change into pants. I think we were gone for about an hour and a half to two hours. I took her potty before we left, when we got to our destination I wanted to her to use the travel potty, but she said no. Then, when we were done and got back in the car, I had her sit on the travel potty. She went a little, and then held the rest until we got home and went on her potty.
I know there will be setbacks, but this is great! Potty Training really is a long term thing. "They" don't really make it seem like that- especially the people who tout the 3-day potty training stuff- but it is a process. A long process. I am convinced that being laid back is best, for my girls, and sometimes they need a nudge, but it is a constant assessment of their needs.
Monday, January 03, 2011
Since I have 4 weeks off over this holiday, I decided I would try the bare bottom style. I know that they are ready, and just are being lazy about having a pull up on. Yesterday was Day 1. It went well. We only went bare bottom for a few hours in the morning. There were no accidents and both went peepee in the potty. M was holding it more, but she at least went.
Today we did bare bottoms all day (except for nap). S did so great! 1 minor accident, but 98% of the time she went in the potty. She even ran to the potty a couple times on her own, without telling me! I thought that was a huge step.
M was having more trouble. I really think this is a control issue with her. She is totally capable of it, I know. I wasn't even going to push it with her, but she wanted to be naked like her sister. Today, she had a few accidents. One time I asked her if she needed to go and she said no. Not 10 seconds later, I notice she is peeing. Of course, I do not make a big deal out of it, but it is frustrating.
No potty training tomorrow, we are going to the zoo!