Question of the Week: When Did it Get Easier for You?
My favorite thing to do when I see brand new moms of twins, is let them know that it WILL get easier. When I was walking around in a fog during those newborn days, I had a twin mom tell me that exact thing. And it helped. A lot. Having twin infants is hard. It's a lot harder than anyone can imagine (except another mom of multiples). I did not enjoy those days. Not at all.
However, I survived! And yes, it does, in fact, get better. And easier. The first 3 months were rough. After that, it got a bit easier. Again, at 6 months, it got a little easier. The first year was definitely the roughest. The second year was tough too, but around 2.5 years it got a lot easier! Now that my girls are 3, I'm just starting to get a glimpse of my life - as ME- as it was before. It is better, no doubt, but I do have a little more time for myself. I also feel more confident in my parenting skills, and I know how to deal with my twins. I've been doing it awhile. For me, while each stage got easier, after age 2 is when it gets much easier. Of course, the tantrums are rough to deal with too. Nothing, nothing at all compares to those newborn days. That was the toughest, and I would not want to relive them- unless I had lots of help so I could get sleep and ENJOY the girls as newborns.
It gets easier. It really does. And the joys of having twins are enormous. Nothing compares to the sweetness of twins!
11 comments:
So well said.
I absolutely and totally agree with you!
I absolutely agree with you - nothing, nothing in this world will make me go back to that newborn stage, and then the first 10 months (yes, our twins didn't sleep for 10 months!)
Yep, those first few months are brutal!
Stopping by from M&M.
Man those first few months are rough! But everyone gets through it. Now on to other challenges!
I found it got a lot easier when they turned two! It's still a lot of work. But it's fun. And the kids are much more independent.
For us it has gotten more difficult as they have gotten mobile. Now there are 2 munchkins running off in different directions!
Heather B- yes, it was pretty difficult when mine were about 16-24 months. They would run in opposite directions, and were still wobbly! After they turned 2 it got much better!
at almost 2 1/2 it is finally getting easier. I still think they are a lot like hearding cats but the fact that they are finally able to communicate has made things much easier! :)
I just found your blog and I couldn't agree more with this post. My twins are only 14 months, but those infant day were brutal. Life is SO much easier now.
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