Monday, September 10, 2007

To the anon who made the RUDE comment: Honestly, I DO NOT NEED THAT! Have YOU ever been in my position? I think NOT! How DARE you judge someone when you have not even gone through ANY of what I have gone through. You have NO IDEA what I am going through and will be going through for the REST OF MY LIFE. This is not an easy decision, or one I made lightly at all. HOW DARE YOU come here and judge me. You are a sorry excuse for a person.

This is MY blog. A place for MY thoughts, feelings, and everything. You do not need to read my blog and comment on it - why make someone who is already feeling awful, feel even worse?


Anonymous said...

Perhaps, in light of the very delicate nature of this situation and your feelings about what you and your husband have decided to do, you should have a password protected blog - one that is not public. I think in the long run it would be best for you.

All the best - I am sure this was an incredibly hard decision. Know that you made the right choice for your family and all will be well. Life goes on, and I wish you peace.

Anonymous said...

Yes, I agree 100% with the above poster. You have made a very hard personal decision that really should, for your well being, be made private.

I understand the need for a caring supportive community during these times. But unfortunately you chose and very public blog. I fear the abuse that may follow should the anti choice network get hold of your postings. They will come after you in the cruelest of ways.

Please, for the sake of you and your family stick close to your core group of helpful and friendly supporters and make this a private blog. The last thing you need to is be fending off hateful comments from those who only wish to harm you and question your choices.

Anonymous said...

Sweetheart this is monstrous that you are being hounded at this heartbreaking time. And I disagree with the above posters - you should not be forced to hide in the shadows as though you had done something shameful. The choice you made is one I pray I never have to, and it is clear that you did this out of love for the long term health and welfare of your future children. You are and will pay a huge price in fear and grief, and it staggers me that some sanctimonious arsehole DARES to fly in with a glib pious comment at this time.

I respect you and your husband's choices enormously. Sometimes we have to choose the lesser of two evils.

(anonymous only because I don't have a google account)

Amanda said...

I give a big "here! here!" to what Alchemilla posted.

No one, not even those who might have been through a similar situation, have the right to judge you! You did not make this decision lightly and anyone who's read the previous blogs knows how heartbreaking this has been.

Head up and foot down! We love you!

Fertilize Me said...

SERIOUS people, this blog is about SUPPORT! Heather - I wish you hte best and I am persojnally very touched by your PUBLIC blog and I am pleased that it is not private. If the anon readers do not have the guts to get their own account- they do not deserve to constipate your blog with worthwhile comments. You are a brave, strong, courageous women that knows exactly waht she can and can not handle. I applaud you wholeheartedly and I am blessed by reading your words!

Karen said...

While anonymous (x2) may think they have a point, you do NOT have to resort to a password-protected blog if you don't want to do that. I think it's important for people making this kind of decision to be able to see the struggle that others went through. It certainly helped me to read blogs of people who'd been faced with the same decision... and it would have SUCKED if the only people brave enough to post their story publicly were the ones who chose against reduction.

You WILL get a lot of horrible comments. You WILL likely get some horrible awful thoughts thrown at you. Most of the nasty things I got were via email, not public comments, but I got some absolute vitriol as I made my decision. You absolutely cannot take it to heart. You and your husband have made a decision based on your personal situation and your personal needs and abilities. You and he are the only ones who have real input. As I've said all along, no matter what anyone else thinks, whatever decision you make, it is the RIGHT decision for YOU. Just as my decision was the right decision for ME, and me alone.

Theresa said...

If you don't like what she says in her own blog, don't read it. It is as simple as that. Nobody is forcing you to read and post your opinions.

Kami said...

I am with so many previous comments. I think it is wonderful that you are posting your thoughts as you get through this time. Somewhere there is someone lurking on this blog (today or in the future) who will benefit enormously from your thoughts.

I support you 1000% on your path and would have done the same if you had chosen not to reduce. I commend you for your courage to choose the best for your children (and not let "fate" decide) and to let the world know how and why you got there.