Wednesday, August 06, 2008

I've been getting along better with moms of twins lately. I think it is because they totally understand about the scheduling thing. It really is different from having a singleton. I think we MoMs (Mom of Multiples) are more conscious of a schedule because if they get off, or miss a nap, you have two grumpy babies and that is NOT fun!

My friend is getting married. She has 2 kids, but they are 10 and 7. So it has been awhile since she had a baby. She wanted to go dress shopping with me, and I appreciated that she asked what day and what time would be best for me. I told her either Tuesday or Wednesday at 11 am. Then, I didn't hear from her. It was making me nervous since I need to plan things out if I go anywhere. So I emailed her Monday and she let me know we were going Tuesday. I was a little annoyed she hadn't told me sooner, but it was fine, I knew to expect either Tues. or Wed. She had mentioned going to a store that was close to me, and I wanted to go to that store. So I figured that was the plan. Then she said she was first going to a store that was closer to her and then they'd go to the one close to me. I was a little annoyed because I was planning on going to only one store so it wouldn't interfere too much with the girls' naps. But, it was my fault really since I did not communicate that to her.

I asked her if they could go to the one close to me first, but no, they couldn't. Other people were also coming and they had already planned it this way. That made me annoyed since it is hard for me to get out of the house, but whatever. I told her that I would go to the store close to me, and she could call me when they were going there. So, I fed the girls and they took a great nap! They had been sleeping for about an hour and a half when she called. I was sad I had to wake the girls up, but I figured they would be ok since they did sleep for more than an hour.

At the store, they were fine. It made me laugh a little because another girl had her baby, who was not cooperative at all (I think she was probably overtired). I fed the girls, and hoped they would sleep. Maya took a little cat nap. I decided that since they were doing so well, we would go to the next store.

While we were at the next store, they started to get cranky. Sofia did fall asleep, which was great! Maya was way overtired, but she would just not fall asleep. I stayed longer than normal because I knew that soon I would havve to pick up hubby from jury duty. It is just way too much to work to go home and carry them inside only to have to turn around and carry them back out. By the time Maya was getting super fussy, hubby called for me to pick him up.

We get home at almost 6 pm and I feed the girls. I know they are so tired and I'm just hoping they will sleep. Fortunately, I had hubby there so he took Sofia and I took Maya. Again, Maya would NOT go to sleep. She was too tired. She was fussing and crying and squirming all over. I tried everything. Finally, after about 40 minutes of trying to get her to sleep. I put her in the swing. She fussed for a bit but then, thankfully, went to sleep! Hubby got Sofia to sleep- until I got Maya to sleep. Then Sofia was up and I had to get her to sleep, which wasn't too hard. But she did not sleep well all night.

I think that will be the last time I stay out anywhere for longer than 2 hours! I know my friend won't understand, but I don't think I'll have to go dress shopping again with her- at least not with the girls. I just feel a lot more connected to other MoMs, which I guess is normal and to be expected. They understand what I'm going through and when we schedule play dates, it is always for 2 hours only and always scheduled around naps. I am happy that I have found a lot of MoMs that I get along with. It's funny because now I have more friends than before, and I am much more social.

That is why yesterday was so exhausting. And I definitely won't be doing that again anytime soon!


I start work in a week and a half. I'm not looking forward to it. I need to go shopping for clothes and I don't want to. I bought a pair of shorts and I had to buy a huge size because my hips have spread. A lot. I'm hoping they will go back, at least a bit- any MoMs out there know if your hips ever go back even a little??? I guess that is one benefit if you have a c-section, although I would think they still might spread a bit, especially if you carry low. That paired with PCOS and not exercising as much as I should, means no weight loss. And that is difficult to deal with.


Rebecca said...

I just ran across your blog from another twin blog...I'm scheduled for a c-section in 12 days (can you tell I'm counting?) and it's nice to see what's to come! I agree with the schedule thing and if people don't understand, well that's just too sounds way too hard otherwise! Good luck with the shopping...I'm sure my hips have spread...I feel it every day!

Mrs. Piggy said...

I hear ya, my hips and thighs have gotten too big for all my business suits, so ill have to wear skirts to work unless i want to buy an expensive warddrobe.
I have been rotating between two pairs of capris all summer. I'm so nasty. I am so amazed at how often you take the kids out by yourself...i have never tried that, but tomorrow I will have to take them to their 2 month check myself...BUT dh is meeting me there to help me out and watch them get their shots :(

Karen said...

I find that non-MoM's just don't get it. They think you can just fudge it with the baby(ies) out, and it just doesn't work that way.

This is one of the reasons that I've joined the board of my local mothers of multiples clubs... because I'm so tired of being misunderstood by singleton moms. It's nice to have this connection with other moms of multiples.

I just can't fathom going dress shopping with my monsters. Just can't even imagine it. I'm really impressed with you!